I recently moved using the internet in a chatroom with 50-something ladies and questioned all of them some over 50 matchmaking questions.

Several of their responses amazed me and could shock you, i’ve altered the brands to safeguard the innocent, however the words all are theirs! Here is the to begin a three part blog on females over 50 dating.

Which are the most critical attributes you look for in men?

Pam: Compatible beliefs and individuality very first. Appropriate-looking get older. (I absolutely perform detest being thought to be my personal date’s girl.) Enough cash that people can go on occasionally – a significant work.

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Cindy: i’ve 3 elements I try to find. a religious hookup, psychological hookup and physic link. Basically link on all 3 of those… the chemistry is remarkable.

Kat: Personally the top my personal number would be that he has to possess an individual commitment with Jesus and that it must be more significant than his connection with me.

Sherry: I’ve found that as I get to know someone better, they much more attractive to me. But I want someone i am keen on, who is keen on me personally. Someone with comparable key values and character. Some body with a similar task degree. Someone who has dealt with his past and is also seeking tomorrow. A person that I can enjoy. Therefore much, You will findn’t found him.

What exactly do you want that 50+ males understood about 50+ women?

Cindy: My desire is that women or men would recognize that not all of the other women or men out right here which can be solitary, are just like the spouse they thought we would divorce. I do believe too man seeking many people of every age group have way too much baggage. I feel that some men are scared of being injured or currently, they fear it once again.

Pam: they must take care to treat prior to trying to date again. I do believe that regularly they get one thing mentioned in purity inappropriate, through filter of these previous relationships. The widowers i have outdated had issues letting get regarding basic wives, and feeling comfy dating some body once more.

Sherry: the people better wake-up as they age …there commonly long to get and find…they have to speed up. Each of us put up a guard…but at the age …we need to take possibilities again…if one desires to be with some one and be pleased.

Cindy: I particular question a lot of men in my age-group will wed once again. I do believe they desire as well. I think a lot of believe they’ve got too much to get rid of or they worry becoming harmed. The very last 2 males I dated were separated over twenty years back.

Pam: nowadays, I’d the same as for a date again. You will find maybe not got a boyfriend this 100 years.

Cindy: the very last one we dated was actually therefore sensitive to every thing. I felt like I was taking walks on ice to avoid offending him. I enjoy life and I also like to chuckle and joke around. Whenever one doesn’t know how to do that… its bye-bye sweetie.

Pam: Yeah, Cin…. one present widower I dated, I happened to express something, making reference to my self. which he moved ballistic over because he would already been teased about this as children. It turned out all right before next, moved downhill like a landslide from that minute on.